Thursday, July 22, 2010

Do I Dare Share....

The 6am feeding was the last one with this nurse we didn't like. She was off at 7:30. So, instead of fight with her about it, I decided to just wait and talk with the doctor when she "rounded." SO... I "fed" Trey the massive amount that I was supposed to, and by "fed" I mean I squeezed out 80% of the food onto his burp clothe when she wasn't looking! Even the little bit he got, he acted really full and spit up-ish. I left about 4mls in the bottle and told the nurse he was too full for it. She quickly pushed it through his tube. I was laughing inside... feeling like such a cheat! But I'm glad I did it.
Why? His 9a.m. feeding: he ate about 33mls, and promptly spit up a lot afterwards. I asked the new nurse to note it in his chart. She said, "Has he been consistently spitting up since he went over 30mls?"
"Yes, he has actually," I said, thrilled that she was seeing the same pattern I was.
"It may be just a little too much for him right now," she said. "I'll tell the doctor."
Hurrah.
I'd told the resident doctor just as much right before the feeding. I also said I was not happy that the plan was changed so fast without any solid indication that he needed to be pushed with more food.
She actually said she had high "expectations" for him since he has done so well and was hoping he'd gain weight fast because he's done everything else so fast.  She said they don't technically have expectations for the babys, but she had them for him anyway. She said we could watch his natural feeding patterns a little bit more today and just see how it goes. She really wants him to gain weight.
I didn't dare tell her I cheated his 38ml feed! Just said he spit up a lot of it!
I'm so going to hell.

9 comments:

Lauren Porter said...

Love that you squeezed it into the burp cloth! You are clever. I think doctors/nurses forget that there is such a thing as mothers instinct. You know when he is full and done cause he is YOUR child! Love that you get to have these experiences, even if it is with a beastly nurse!

Nuestra Familia said...

Hi Kelly, sorry that you have to deal with that crazy nurse. I wish she would listen and try to understand you better. You make me laugh about squeezing some mls out, I would have done something too. When my first was born with Down syndrome he was a little jaundice and pediatrician order the bottle right away. The nurses were understanding and let me nurse him as much as possible,it was difficult but I kept doing it even though others said he probably wont nurse. Mario ended being a great nurser and my child that nursed the longest. Trey will do great!! The nursing specialist are so gifted and helpful:)

Jill and Cameron said...

HAHA no not hell Kelly. You were protecting your child. You're a wonderful mother, all your children are lucky to have you! :)

Alicia said...

Haha this story made me laugh. That is a great idea. Good luck with the rest of your day !!

Robin said...

You are SO NOT going to hell. And that is the funniest thing i've heard. You're a great mom, keep up the good work.

Bri said...

Bahaha. If you're going to hell, I know a lot of us will be there with you. What does a little avoidance of a conflict hurt, anyhow? Even if there is some deception involved. Personally, I do it on a daily basis! Did you talk with the charge nurse about not wanting that particular nurse again? It's not like you need the extra stress.

Stock Family said...

UGH! Every one of my children didn't gain weight until I was ONLY nursing. Seriously. I had c-sections with all 3, so their first "meal" was a bottle until I was able to hold them. Anyway, long story short, the night before I was supposed to leave after having Daisy, I told the doctor to just let me nurse her without using formula. By morning, she had gained 3oz! More than any other time. I'm proud of you for doing that! Mothers do know best.

Naomi H said...

Yeah I had some nurses that drove me nuts when I was in the hospital too. Reading your story made me so mad (I read yesterday's post with this one) and I got happier when I read that you are smarter than that nurse ;p Sounds like Trey is a fighter big time!

The Scotts said...

You are such a good Momma!! Some nurses just think they know everything!!