We delivered our last two babies 10 months apart in the same hospital. In that span of time, one gift was added to the standard packet they give "widowed" parents. It was a book tucked into the folder that the hospital social worker hands out. The tiny book was called A Guide For Fathers When a Baby Dies, by Tim Nelson. He had a stillborn daughter, Kathleen. He said he wrote an article about his experience: "because my wife, Monica and I were the only ones to ever see her, hold her and tell her we loved her, I felt a strong need to share her story with others." That article is in the book as well many helpful notes such as,
The Early Hours
If you Have Other Children
Back To Work
Luckily, my husband found and read this book while we were in the hospital. He was immensely comforted reading someone's thoughts who many times, mirrored his own. He was grateful for the advice and counsel. Even if it's been a while since your baby's passing, I recommend this book for fathers. It's a rare male voice they can identify with.
I'm so thankful that the hospital social worker is never satisfied with current resources and seeks new ones for her patients. Each little resource helps.
You can get a copy of the book by going to http://www.aplacetoremember.com/. A link for it is also under my Helpful Hints section.