tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1317329586321175855.post8427796532400827848..comments2023-10-23T10:08:39.391-07:00Comments on Lightning Strikes Twice: I copied this from a friend's blog! Love it.Kellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09364996013596703990noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1317329586321175855.post-12865677606904146832010-02-24T20:41:07.705-08:002010-02-24T20:41:07.705-08:00Hi - Just discovered your blog and have read throu...Hi - Just discovered your blog and have read through much of it. I can relate to so much of what you've written. So sorry for the losses you've suffered! I lost my babies to cord problems (two boys six months apart to hypercoiling and stricture) and was happy to see the blog your husband created to bring more attention to the issue. Thanks for sharing your story!Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12316978989809741699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1317329586321175855.post-73636795964746306252010-02-24T08:02:31.425-08:002010-02-24T08:02:31.425-08:00In responce to Katie,
I think, if you can, just b...In responce to Katie, <br />I think, if you can, just bring it up. How many people tell me later they were thinking of the babies when we were together and never told me. I went off assuming they didn't remember or care. And now it's been months so it's weird to begin that conversation now. When people don't bring it up, usually I don't either. I have in the past, desperate to share this important part of my life with them, but now I don't. It feels degrading. Like trying to make my child important to someone who doesn't think it's important. Once the ice is broken, it's easy on my end to talk about it and bring it up. I will only do it with people who I think genuinely care. <br />I am curious about your actions or thoughts when you had your huge loss... don't want to bring it up here, but I would think you remember similar feelings or maybe even opposite feelings!? I would think you an expert in matters like this.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09364996013596703990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1317329586321175855.post-2360390894502923932010-02-23T16:57:20.485-08:002010-02-23T16:57:20.485-08:00I agree with Bri. It's hard to know what the ...I agree with Bri. It's hard to know what the "right" thing to say/do/act as a person who wants to be a supporter, confidant, friend. Of course, there is no "right" way, but having a window into some general ideas of what helps and what doesn't is helpful. (Distance doesn't make it any easier.) <br /><br />One thought - as a friend, I often don't know the right balance of #1/#2 (talking about the loved one and stories) and #12 (bereaved people will not offer unless they really want you to know)...do you (or your readers) have advice about this? I always want to ask about how you are and your thoughts about your grief - but I don't always know if that's what you want to talk about - or if you'd rather be talking about other things, different things. Thoughts?Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13522272214569311093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1317329586321175855.post-69380185059454873302010-02-23T13:01:07.137-08:002010-02-23T13:01:07.137-08:00So straight forward...love it! Makes it seem like ...So straight forward...love it! Makes it seem like being supportive to a grieving person isn't that hard...I think it just takes a little willingness to put yourself out there.<br />It's good that you've posted this, I think, Kelly. It helps give people some kind of reference about what you need and DO NOT need.Brihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10230323740861078042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1317329586321175855.post-59793223457982622662010-02-23T09:49:31.387-08:002010-02-23T09:49:31.387-08:00Oh, thankyou... thankyou !
You have hit ALL the n...Oh, thankyou... thankyou !<br /><br />You have hit ALL the nails directly on the head...<br /><br />I've been on this unforseen, unexpected journey for 34 mos now... with losing my best-friend/hubby... & truly I treasure no phone calls, no e-mails, no visits from 99% of relatives & who we both thought were good friends.<br /><br />Blessings to you & yours dear Sister... blessings !Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13224488489368611047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1317329586321175855.post-21519490759044413802010-02-22T13:55:33.715-08:002010-02-22T13:55:33.715-08:00Amen!Amen!Kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07633576021572383799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1317329586321175855.post-10626576783268682402010-02-22T10:39:44.434-08:002010-02-22T10:39:44.434-08:00It is great, isn't it? I found it on andrealar...It is great, isn't it? I found it on andrealarsen.blogspot.com. She lost an infant son. I added the "this too shall pass" and #14.Stock Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00695774523889594769noreply@blogger.com